I’m Afraid to Ride My Bike on the Streets

redroadbikeI’m as health and eco-conscious as the next girl, but the lack of awareness, attention, knowledge of right-of-way laws/general rules of the road and distracted driving I see exhibited by those who occupy the roads with me every day, has made me terrified to take to the streets on two wheels.

California has laws to protect the safety of motorists, bicyclists and pedestrians alike, but I am amazed daily by the number of violations that continue to happen as if no legislation exists because they go unnoticed by violators and law enforcement alike.

Think about it, in California (and many other states) it against the law to:

  • Hold any handheld communication device while driving
  • If you drive a Bus you can’t use a cell phone at all
  • If you are a new driver (anyone under 18) you can’t use a handheld OR handsfree cell phone
  • No texting while driving

Although these things are just as dangerous to other drivers, pedestrians and cyclists who share the road with them, it ISN’T written in the law that you can’t operate a vehicle and:

  • Eat or Drink
  • Talk/Sing/Argue with Passengers
  • Have a Pet Roaming the Car or Sitting in the Driver’s Lap
  • Perform Grooming Tasks (brush hair/teeth, shave, apply makeup, etc.)
  • Read (I’ve seen books, newspapers, maps and more!)
  • Use Navigation System
  • Watch Video Entertainment
  • Fiddle with Radio, CD, MP3, etc.

We all know that even more than this goes on when cars are being driven.  I know I am a perpetrator of some of the above, especially the singing 😉

I have a great bike and I’d love to ride it, in fact, when I’m feeling brave enough to hit the streets of my town, I’ve been known to ride it to the place where I get my messages (two miles from my house) and I’ve even ridden it to the gym about a mile and a half away.  But it seems more and more frequently, the news is reporting another car vs pedestrian or car vs cyclist incident on the streets of the cities near the place I call home.

If you think I am simplifying or exaggerating the risks taken when a pedestrian or cyclist hits the street, consider some of the following statistics cited in a 127 hour video-documented study by Monash University in Austrailia, where 54 car vs cyclist incidents were recorded: 2 collisions, 6 near-collisions and 46 other incidents.  That averaged out to a very scary incident every 2.5 hours, with the blame falling primarily on the drivers of the motor vehicles!

  • Prior to events, 88.9% of cyclists traveled in a safe and legal manner.
  • Vehicle drivers were at fault in 87% of the events, with more than 83% of drivers showing no post-event reaction.
  • The most frequent event was caused by drivers suddenly changing lanes, 40.7%.
  • 70.3% of events occurred at an intersection or intersection-related locations.
  • Cyclists who frequently looked over their shoulders had the highest situational awareness and the greatest ability to avoid collisions or near-collisions with cars.

In this country’s big cities, which have seen a growth in both population and traffic, campaigns have been made to get people to commute by foot or bike, but the same risks, and maybe even more, exist.  More people means more cars and more traffic, but infrastructure (streets, roadways, etc.) have not seen updates in decades and there just isn’t enough room for cars, cyclists, and pedestrians to co-exist.

In September 2013, California governor Jerry Brown signed a law requiring that motorists give cyclists at least 3 feet of clearance when passing.  That’s nice in theory, but the width of any existing bike lanes (which riders have a tendency to hug toward the car side of the lane to avoid bumpy/poorly maintained lanes, debris and slopes toward the curbs) and the need to move more traffic through narrower roads on more lanes than is safe, forces drivers to push into the lane of the driver to their left and could result in a vehicle vs vehicle collision.  Doesn’t seem like the 3 feet rule leaves enough space for ANYONE to be safe!

Consider some other safety issues posed by those who are supposed to share these crowded roadways:

  • Use of cell phones, smart phones, and MP3 players has resulted in a greater possibility than ever of injury to a cyclist or pedestrian who may have one or both of their ears covered by earphones/earbuds.  Their attention is focused down on texting or playing a handheld game while walking, listening to music at a high volume, or having a conversation instead of paying attention to the traffic noises or paying attention to the others who share the sidewalks/roadways;
  • Children are supposed to wear helmets while bicycling, skate boarding, etc., but many parents don’t enforce that rule in their homes;
  • Bicycle riders are instructed to stop and walk their bikes across intersections with cross walks (but most don’t), ride with traffic (not against), and to always ride in a safe and observant manner; and
  • Pedestrians are tasked to walk facing traffic, maintain alertness and obey traffic signals;

With all of these distractions, plus the addition of student drivers, drivers who don’t speak or read the language who may not understand what a sign like “Yield” means in practice, nervous or elderly drivers, and the list goes on, unless it’s a country lane where there are few, if any vehicles, my bike just may continue to gather dust in the garage.  Hmmm

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Impulsive vs Spontaneous

impulsiveMerriam Webster defines impulsive as, “acting or tending to act suddenly and without careful thought.”

When I was 22 I was definitely impulsive.

I ended a marriage that was never going to last  (especially in light of the fact that he turned out to be gay),  was seeing someone I was in love with, who I’d wanted to be with for years, yet once I had him, I walked away from him.

Bad advice given by close friends convinced me that:

  • His business was more important to him than I was;
  • After my train wreck marriage, I should be living it up;
  • He didn’t like the same fun nights out drinking and dancing that they did so I basically had to choose between 1 night a week with him or every night with them; and
  • They said he was only with me when he couldn’t be with the girlfriend that they convinced me he secretly had.

If I’d have stopped to think, I would have given their arguments against pursing a relationship I really wanted proper consideration:

  • I should have been supportive of his business focus, not threatened by it;
  • I was never a partier, it was a temporary phase and one I ended up not missing at all.  I loved nights in with him; and
  • I should have listened to my heart

Instead I listened to the advice of the friends I ended up parting ways with because we were too different in the end.  They weren’t interested in what would make me the happiest, they were interested in not losing a financial contributor to the many “girl’s nights out” we had in large part due to the job I had that paid well.  When they hooked up, had boyfriends for a few weeks at a time, and ditched me completely for a guy, the same rules didn’t apply and my opinion of their choices didn’t matter.

I hate asking myself, “What if?”  In this case I obviously made a horribly wrong choice that cost me a relationship with promise and, even worse, a true friend.  That “What if” haunts me and I regret the impulsive choice still, 25 years later.

I know my weaknesses and strengths.  One weakness in particular is that routine bores me.  I appreciate and acknowledge that a certain part of life is going to be routine, like working at a career and creating a home & family life.  I need a certain amount of spontaneity in my life to survive the monotony that doing the same things can bring.

Spontaneous: Taking a risk, living life to the fullest, no plans, “don’t think just do.”

spontaneous1I don’t need my life to be a three ring circus, but I believe that every couple needs spontaneity to keep their romantic fires burning, to say connected outside of the demands of family and work life, and that the connectivity mobile phones provide should allow for:

  • A weekday picnic in the park;
  • An unplanned date or weekend road trip;
  • A lunch date that turns into an afternoon at a ball game, walking on the beach or driving along the coast;
  • A surprise vacation or any other unexpected time that gives focus just to us.

Ask my friends and they would describe me as: Focused and organized when things need to be done but I am also the girl that loves adventure, can get ready to go in a flash, goes with the flow when plans change and am always ready to have fun.

I’m glad that age, experience (good and bad) and good people around me have changed me from someone who acts impulsively and acts without giving thought to what the consequences could be, into a person who takes care of her responsibilities yet maintains a sense of fun and sense of adventure.  It makes life WORTH living instead of being something that HAS to be lived. Hmmm

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